My mother wants to see our extended family! She has been at her skilled care nursing/rehab since May 2011. My daughters age 28, 23 & 22 are very good about visiting mom at her skilled care nursing/rehab, but my son who is 26 for some reason does not come to visit her even though his work/school is only 10 minutes away from where she is residing. Nor do my inlaws visit who are 20 minutes away, nor does my sister-in-law and her family who are 20 minutes away, though they have sent an occasional card. All the above plan to be at my sister in laws small home on Thanksgiving Day.
I see my mother every other day, and my husband comes to see her with me on Sundays. She is a sweet lady and has been involved with the family and the get togethers since before her stroke. She is now cognitively impaired, and has a difficult time speaking sometimes (finding the right words). She is in a wheelchair and scoots about her SCN quite well; attends the activities (atleast once a day) and visits friends throughout the day. Most of the time she seems quite content. She loses her balance easily so we are concerned about transporting her from her wheelchair to the car and back again. In May she fell 3 x's, the third time she broke her back. We are also concerned that all of the loudness and chaos from the family members might be a little much for her. It is very difficult for me to try to explain/defend/honor the family members who do not visit my mother when she asks about them. I also feel guilty when I try to explain to mom why we don't think it would be best for her to be transported. At this time when we want to go somewhere we take the City Coach which picks her up in her wheelchair.
Holiday-time seems to be pulling at my heartstrings. I guess I also desire that things be the way they used to be. I'm the only daughter of my mother. I am making every effort to count my blessings. I do know that God gives grace in all situations and am thankful that my mother recently wants to come to "the church down the hall" from her room every Sunday. She has enjoyed the wonderful service that is there. She has been wanting to come to church/read her Bible since I took her to the movie Courageous. Any input from any of you that have "been there" would be greatly appreciated. Any suggestions for the holidays would also be appreciated. (Gift ideas and such :) Thank you ahead of time! I of course plan to ask the RN at the facility on Friday to get her input as well.