He is an alzheimer patient in skilled care facility, private pay. If he should need skilled nursing, and afraid he is approaching that, I can not afford the pay. I am probably just over the limit for him to qualify for medi-cal. What to do? I took care of him for 4 years before finding the assisted care facility he is now in. I just could not do it any longer. I still have guilt. But I was seriously thinking of driving us into a telephone pole to end the insanity of it. Thank goodness the facility accepted him where he is now. It is a struggle to pay the rent but I can breathe now. I love my husband of 51 years. I miss him every day. He was my hero. I just wasn't strong enough to endure the dreaded disease as it changed him so much. I worry if I he will have to return home. He is in advanced stage of alzheimer but still ambulatory and extremely hard to manage even there.. Has anyone brought a loved one home? He is 87 and I, 80 Thank you for your input.