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My boyfriends siblings are coming into the house yelling at us and being disrespectful. She is 82 with terminal cancer and she is declining. we have started receiving threatening calls and text messages. We have been keeping this from her. I have contacted adult protections and have kept hospice informed. what else can we do? she wants to die at home an we are doing the best we can so that she gets her wish

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Why are the siblings behaving this way? Are they angry because you're involved? And what's the basis for the threats?

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They were fine with everything until hospice said her gut was not absorbing tube feeds fast enough and that usually they only live a few weeks after this starts. they came in yelling and saying I was taking over. I have been with her from the beginning. The one thing they seemed concerned about was the will.
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What would they like to see done? Do they wish her to have more aggressive treatment?

Was Hospice mom's decision?
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So why don't they take over so you can step back? This really isn't your responsibility anyway. Let the siblings step up to caring for their mother.
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There really wasn't a choice she is to weak for treatment
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So, what would they like? I vote for stepping back and allowing the children to care for her. Take a little break for yourself.
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I agree! Let them take over.. You've done what you can.. She knows all the support you gave her.. No regrets!
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The problem is they won't stay with her. This is why she wants me to be here.
She has told them also. Hospice is involved and has documented every call that is made and have stated I an the only one who has called. She is declining and I called to have her assessed. The daughter that lives here contacted her sister and of course she didn't bother to show up. But has the nerve to blow up when hospice calls and decides to come over in short notice.
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Wha4 a very difficult situation for you,. Is there no way for you to have a serious conversation with the POA, regarding the womens care and desires? You live there with one of her Son's and are her caregiver? You would think they would have more compassion than this, for their dying Mother. It sounds as if money is at the root of all of this.
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I thought at first they cared but when they bombarded her and made her cry and left her a nervous wreck i changed my mind. They took her belongings out of the house as she lay dying in her bed. In my opinion they were waiting for her die.
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