e. She is very self centered and controlling. He is her only son. He works 12 hr shift work so she is fine being left alone when he works. The problem is she wants him to be there every night when he is off. Im not welcome at her house because she is very jealous and only wants him to care for her. Our relationship is very stained over this. I would be happy to help but she won't allow it. We dont have much time together because of this. I dont understand why he cant just tell her that im important to him and that we will care for her. She is not a very pleasant person and never has been. She talks so mean to him. Is this normal? What do I do?