This is Dad to a T. It seems he's been doing this all his life not just when he's old.
If he can get someone else to put themselves out he won't even bother himself. The number of people who he's upset because quite frankly, he's ungrateful and expects people to do things for him.
Bought him the mobility scooter because he said he can't walk. I went for a walk with him many times so he could get the hang of it.
Found out he pretty much only goes out when someone else is there to take the cover off etc. Then he moans he's stuck in the house! I know it's because he just can't be bothered himself.
I'm at my wits end. He moans he's stuck in and then he won't make any effort. I've tried to talk to him but he just won't do things on his own and is never happy unless he's got someone doing something for him.
To put into perspective, wife is a nurse. She sees an old man totally disabled who uses a hoist to get himself into the chair and drive it to the doctor. My Dad, who's nowhere near that level, can't be bothered to take the cover off his!