My dad's blind with congestive heart failure, cognitive issues, on O2 and has balance issues. My mom's deaf, either has dementia or is faking it, has a repaired hip fracture and is extremely agitated and anxious and requires constant attention. My dad has excellent hearing, cannot stand her attention, and gets confused but doesn't know it. With or without outside care there are constant crises that are taking over my life. I don't think there is a solution, other than complete selfsacrifice (I'm the only one my dad will listen to--my mom believes only strangers--never family). I just wanted to post it. I'm planning on quitting one of my part-time jobs to take care of them. It will be hard because I have never enjoyed my mother's company but can't abandon my father.