Both of my parents have dementia & live at home, they are not driving. Trying to get them to have home care once a week. Any advice?

We got my mom to accept a "helper" by saying the helper was there to drive her wherever she wanted -- like a chauffeur. She seemed to think that was acceptable. Of course, the helper quickly also became a cook, a laundress, someone to help with groceries, etc... But it was a way to get her in the door. Good luck!

Windy is correct, if they aren’t willing to go it often takes a crisis to make it happen. If they aren’t competent and you have POA then it may be possible to make the move happen sooner and a bit more easily, at least legally. In the meantime, are they wearing some type of fall alert device? My dad wears a pendant necklace type, it’s been a big help. We’ve found caregivers often want a minimum shift of at least 5-6 hours to make it worth their coming.

I believe that one should plan ahead, get them located before it becomes an emergency.

We placed my step father and his wife in AL, knowing that she will need to be placed in MC soon. If he dies, it will be immediately. We selected a home that offers a step up program in the same building.

It takes them time to settle in, to acclimate and the more faculties they have the easier it is as they have some understanding of what is going on.

Elderly people do better if they are with people their own ages, they make new friends, enjoy the activities and more. According to the experts, isolation in their home is not in their best interest.

If things are going wrong....several times a week, it’s time for assisted living. Getting them in is a whole other issue. Like most of us you will probably have to take advantage of a crisis. My folks refused all help and refused to move. I was ready to turn them over to APS but finally had the game changer crisis that forced them into care.