Most of the time I’m posting in regard to my mom, this is about my 81 year old mother-in-law, still lives alone in her home. She has severe COPD ( doesn’t need oxygen yet), and very bad anxiety. She still hangs her laundry out to dry as breathing permits, very much mobile, tries to be active. We’ve only been involved with her medical issues/decisions Since June 2018 when my FIL died.
Last month her house almost caught fire in middle of night, smoke detectors woke her up. Electrical cord was shorting out, sparks flying, lots of smoke. She jerked the cord out of wall & sparks stopped. She called 911, fire dept & emt’s came out, took her to hospital. The scare gave her a mild heart attack (which she never realized & still doesn’t) no heart damage, no blockages in her heart. She was in ICU for two days while they checked EVERYTHING out. Her anxiety was setting off her COPD (which my husband & I knew) which made them do more tests, which set off more anxiety. Now to the issue at hand which is gross!
Sorry for this, just thought someone here could give us advice. Her ICU nurse came to me & asked me how long her bladder had been hanging outside her body. Shock....my MIL had never complained about this. Turned out the Dr. told her 5 years ago she had a small prolapse & it could be fixed in his office! She never went back and is now at the point she has to squeeze her bladder to urinate! So Ob/gyn was called to hospital. Couldn’t do anything then because her anxiety/breathing issues were out of control. After office visit last Friday he wants to do surgery. It will require an overnight stay. Mother in law says she wants to know what we think. She is not used to deciding anything on her own!!!
My husband is an only child so he values & relies on my help/opinion with her. We’re not against the surgery, but a big concern is her anxiety which always sets off a long chain of events. Anxiety aside, how hard is general anesthesia on someone with severe COPD? I’m thinking we should get her anxiety med (Buspar) increased for upcoming surgery. She’s on a low dose because her primary care Dr. only likes low doses of anxiety drugs. Physically she will never be stronger than she is now & her COPD will only get worse. But are there any little old ladies in the nursing home with this issue...how is it dealt with there? This is a very sweet, kind lady, a wonderful MIL. I could live with her if I had to, but NO Way, NO How would I squeeze her bladder if for some reason she couldn’t do it herself!!!! So if she were to get temporarily sick & couldn’t do it herself, what would happen if this doesn’t get fixed now?
My apologies for the grossness & length of this post.