Weve had alot of issues with my grandma within the last 3 years since my grandad died but shes pushed over the line this time. Over new year my mother had abuse over the phone with her shouting at her for not going to see her nye telling my mother were a bad family wishing our spouses dead! For the past 3 weeks shes been accusing my 10 year old son for stealing her biscuits which he has not done and wont let up about it. Yesterday she was harping on about it yet again and I blew at her, even my mum had words with her not to be accusing people if she still wants us to visit 3 times a week even though Im just a grandaughter with two dependants and a job! My grandmother rang my mum this morning to shout at her over 'biscuitgate' and bought up when I, 17 years ago stole something of hers which I was punished and repaid my mistake. Is she incuring that what I did at 14 makes my son a biscuit theif!!! My mum got angry and put the phone down on her and she then recieved a nasty voicemail straight after.
It is my mamas 80th birthday on Friday and after this crap shes putting us through I dont want to see her or buy her presents and make a fuss of her because she doesnt deserve it.
Shes not confused and old as one of my aunties describes it shes turned into a bitter and twisted old woman. What do I do? Theres no reasoning with her she just gets nasty, is it tough love she needs. She doesnt appreciate anything the family do for her and tells us on a regular basis other peoples families are better than us.