Mil is 68 years old and guilted us to let her live in and since there is not really any family we got stuck with her or maybe we're not strong enough to say NO.
Mil doe nothing to be helpful. She sleeps till 11am-2pm. She washes the dishes half-a$$, wheels out trash and recycle. She does not work, won't make friends, has no interest or hobbies. We are suppose to be her source of entertainment and we have our own lives with our 7 year old daughter. Mil does nothing w my daughter like most grandparents will do.
This weekend I reached my breakpoint of disrespect. We are renting and I had renewal and inspection, I wanted the house clean. I told mil Saturday that she had between sat - sun to clean her room and bathroom (she is not disabled). I asked her on Sunday when she planned to shower and clean and her response was idk. I said you need to clean we are all cleaning. Then she pitifully walked around the house cause I told her to clean and went into her room. We checked on her 1.5 later and she's in bed w the dusting rag telling us she's working on dusting. We left and instructed her to change her sheets (again she is perfectly capable of this task just does not want too). We were gone 2 hours, she pulled off her sheets that's it. When we got home then she proceeded to put sheets on. Fast forward to Monday I came home and it's 245 and she's in her too small nightshirt and pants and I asked if she planned to put a tshirt on and she was like yeeeeaaaaahh. Then I told her I will be vacuuming (I like to vacume before ppl come over because I like that fresh air scent. I got to her room and nothing is picked up, she was like idk what to do with it. I just stood there waiting. She had some clothes and shoes it was 4 pick up piles. I was like do you want carpet powder all over your stuff? No. I think she thought I would just pick up her stuff - um no she does nothing. Then as I vacume her room I find grey and black streaks on the carpet - I am guessing cause she does not pick up her feet. I am just so fed up.
Previously before this Thursday she got mad that my daughter ate and I asked if she wanted me to heat up dinner for her as my husband and I were going to eat later on our he'd; I had a stressful day at work and just wanted to lay in bed and eat dinner like we use to before she moved in. Keep in mind we eat w her 98% of the time and it's not like she would eat alone she would eat with her granddaughter. Then Friday I went to a school function and we were being served good so my daughter and I were stuffed. My husband said he would make a sandwich and mil was what am I suppose to eat after I said there are a bunch of left overs. She was expecting me to cook just her dinner as my husband already made himself a sandwich since we were full. I told her to eat the left overs I am not cooking a full meal for just her - left overs in fridge are all homemade by me anyways.
So as you see this keeps snow balling. Am I alone? I do not know how much I can take of her living with us.