I am sole caregiver for my 87 yr old mother who has dementia. My brother lives 2 hours away and visited last in January. My sister lives in the same town and visited last at Christmas. They both don't want to see mom get worse and are extremely uncomfortable around her when they visit.They talk non stop and very loud and she gets agitated. She doesn't ask about them or mention them at anytime. She doesn't know anyone anymore and wouldn't remember them if they came. I just want to call them and tell if they don't want to come on Mother's Day, they don't have to. I don't know !!