Anyone else feel like they are the lightening rod for blame in their family? I have just moved to the town where my Mom lives. Couple weeks after I got here, it was finally recognized that she has bedbugs (was also depressed, not washing or laundering well, isolating with little social contact at her choice). She had complained for 20 months of a "skin condition", which I believe was actually the repeated bites. Although her apartment was treated, when I went in as boots-on-the-ground for the refurbish and much needed cleaning so she could return from skilled nursing, live bed bugs were found. No further cleaning help was available for hire after that. Mom has gone back and forth on whether to return there, but my brothers absolutely thought cleaning it up, regular extermination, and my regular presence was a fine solution. I kept on going forward on that without much expectation of success, and all of sudden they went radio silent. Next thing I know, I'm accused of manipulating Mom into refusing to go back there. And wasting their valuable time and money by not carrying out unworkable plans. I did yell with outrage when I heard this at the most inopportune time, but also apologized later. Lucky for me, the brother with the POA now wants Mom moved to where he lives. Yea! I am bent out of shape now because, I kept everyone up to speed, and the POA has not spoken to me yet since the blow out. I have no details, and get 9+ calls a day from Mom - who cannot call POA bro from the nursing home because it's long distance.