We (my husband and I, sisters and brothers) made the decision, with my mom's consent, to move her from SD to my house in NC. It's not working. Her dementia/Alzheimer's is too far past the stage where my husband and I can care for her. We have found a small private long term care facility where she can move to. Mom is not going to take this move well. My health is at risk due to the stress from constant care, arguing (I know I'm suppose to divert and redirect, but it doesn't work with my mom), and I spend more time in tears than not, so keeping her in our home is not an option. She has a dog which she totally dotes on and has said that she would die before giving up her dog. This facility will not allow dogs. I'm so torn. This is the right decision, but why do I feel so bad about it? How do I tell my mom that I (we) moved her from SD to NC only to put her in a long term facility and she can't take her dog, which is about the only thing she loves? She hates it in NC, but there is nothing for her in SD. No one is able to take her into their homes, nor are they qualified to do so. My life has become one big battle ground with the occasional time out to regroup.