My parents have come to live with my husband and I. They are still independent, but have been struggling with the basics of day to day life and will probably only need more help as time goes by.
My siblings and I all noticed that they were forgetting things and having difficulty navigating their two story home. Now that I've helped my parents move and have lived with them a few weeks, I realize that it was worse than we knew. My mother is getting confused easily, which she tries to cover up. My father's temper is getting out of hand. Those are just a few examples of things I wouldn't know if I didn't live with them every day.
My siblings and I have usually kept up with one another through our parents, but now I feel like I should be communicating with them directly about how my parents are doing, though I'm not sure all of my siblings really want to know.
I imagine that hearing about it might make them feel guilty. It isn't my goal to make them feel bad or to martyr myself. (Personally, I hate whining.) I just want them to know what is going on, and that there are realities that have to be dealt with on a day to day basis.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what works to keep those siblings who are interested in the loop? What doesn't work?