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Family not helping with mom at 80 had a stroke she is now 90 has diabetes hypertension thyroid heart murmur glicoma sleep apnea and now needs help for ordeing and administering meds purchasing toiletries food sanitary supplies bills being paid , cooking driving to / from appointments . cleaning of house we help pay to have a sitter come in on occasion while I attend school functions for 13 yr old son or doctor appointments errands for self . I've lived with her since stroke she recovered for about two years later started showing signs of memory lost bills not paid . driving into unknown area mood swings paranoid it was hard her family wouldn't listen when I metion this behavior. So stressful after I had enough she was having blood sugar highs 400 and low 36 I took over and got her to the doctors myself . been I've been taken care of mom inlaw for last 6 yrs she was diagnosed with dementia within the last 3 yrs my hubby ( her son only son) works .i stay at home with mom she has Medicare / SS her kids thinks she receives thousands . they don't have a clue and i truly feel they don't care wow )n just trying to protect myself and my family

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Thank you all ! For your help I'm going to show this advice to my husband . we do have power of attorney it was drawn up before we loss my father Inlaw over 15 yrs ago we had it reviewed about 6 yrs ago when the strange behavior started . I know it's hard for my husband to come to grips that his mom is not the same and he has to make sometime hard decision concerning her care. I don't want her in a nursing home and will not put her there I promised years ago I love her and want the best for her it just gets hard sometime dealing with non helping family members . that has all the input on how things should be done im so relieved to have a form like this to vent and get advice you guys are awesome be blessed thanks again
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Oh yes! Keep records of absolutely everything you spend money on for MIL. Also track your mileage for taking her to appointments.

Soooo much better to have this documented and not need it than to be without it if you ever have to defend yourself, etc.
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If you do not already have Power of Attorney, you need to get that set up now, to, or if MIW is not competent to sign, you'll need to petition the court for conservatorship/guardianship. Don't screw yourself by handling MIW's finances without that authority, it will bite you in the butt.
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Absolutely! Keep meticulous records of all expenses and income. You will need this, and keep in mind that the relatives that aren't around now, will be when they smell the money (if there is any money to be smelt!), so you need to protect yourself from allegations of financial abuse and be able to give a full accounting. If you become guardian, you will be required to submit financial reports to the court on a regular schedule, so you may as well get those records in place and get used to maintaining them.
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