three years ago my father finally got tired of starring at the walls of his house (especially over the winter months) and tried out an assisted living facility nearby. this place is full of seniors from italian decent so my father is able to find company and communicate well with the residents and also staff many of whome also speak italian.
Last january '15, after noticing how run down and abandoned his house was starting to become I asked my dad if he'd be okay with me selling my house and moving into his for a few years so I could maintain and keep it available for him to visit occasionally - he said that would be a great idea and most likely he'd never want to return.
This past january, he had a slight stroke which has only affected his mobility (mostly in wheel chair) and only slightly his mind (confusion and anxiety). He has started saying he wants to return to his home and essentially asked me to move out (wife and 3 kids) essentially so he can return and hire live-in care staff.
My siblings, who are much older than I am (by 12 and 14 years) are supporting his thought to move home without me there otherwise they wont feel comfortable visiting him while my family lives in his house. I dont really want to subject my family to another move especially after spending 75k and months last summer to fix his decrepet house up (kitchen and bathrooms, windows, floor, etc).
I've had several discussions with the staff at the assisted living facility and they suggested he's in better care with a facility full of staff and friends than stuck in a house with a live-in Filipino care staff which I think makes sense too.
After a couple meetings with siblings (who insist on my dad being in the meetings as well) they all seem to think I need to pack myself and vacate the house so my dad can move into the house and have live in help...
Where is the best place for a senior to live out their sunset years? (assisted living, long term care, home with some family members, home with hired help)
thanks for your thoughts!