My 81 year old parents experienced losing my brother to cancer and losing their home in a flood,within months of each other, two years ago. My mother has progressive dementia and suffers with major depression and my father turned to alcohol and binge drinks weekly. I no longer feel my mother is safe and is now living with the depression and anger my father displays as a result of his alcoholism.
I am 60 years old, retired, and live 5 hours away from them. I try to visit them every two weeks, but am getting burned out and depressed and, for my mother's safety and well being, know that something has to change.
My parents have been together since they were 18 years old (63 years), and up until two years ago very close and happy. My mother could live on her own, but is not wanting to live with any of her four remaining adult children even though she is miserable living with my alcoholic father.
I found an affordable assisted living apartment complex and am presently arming myself with the information about the facility in the hopes that I can get them both to agree to move. It won't change my father's drinking, but would ease my worry about my mother's safety and isolation.
I have been unable to stay mentally healthy and worry night and day about both of them. They are wonderful people, but both of them are sick in their own way.
I am nervous about presenting my thoughts and wishes for them to make a move to the assisted living facility because I don't want them to say no.
After reading other posts on this sight I will try to plant the seeds for the move and pray for positive results.
I would very much appreciate anyone's thoughts on my situation.