Help with siblings having differing opinions on how to deal with stopping elderly parent from driving and doing finances. My mom has reached the point where she must be stopped from driving and taking care of her finances. We have three siblings involved, two live remote and one lives near. The one living near is oldest and has been staying with mom at nights for a couple years because mom is very afraid of dark. She stays from 6pm to 6am unless one of the other two are in town. When she comes in at 6pm she will prepare dinner , ask mom if she has taken her medicine and go into her room until she leaves for work the next day. She does take mom places on many of her days off. When either of other two are in town they spend the majority of time during day with mom. We all are close to agreement that mom needs to stop driving and she isn't capable of doing her finances. I say only close to agreement because the oldest sister agreed but then said well if she was just going a short distance to the same place it would be ok. That's not the issue I need help with. Two siblings agree that we need to take action and get things taken care of. One sibling wants to take it slowly and one step at a time, i.e. use her car while major repair being done and taking safe deposit box key. Geez I realize as I am typing this how ridiculous that sounds and that I need explain anymore. What is the best approach for taking driving privileges and financial decisions from a parent that wont admit its time? Second question is for advice on how to get through the differences between siblings without destroying family?