My mom is a sociopath who was very intelligent, so needless to say that I grew up in a single parent home with a person that was narcissistic, mentally, emotionally and at times physically abusive and neglectful to an extreme.
My mother was formerly diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's Dementia along with Frontal Lobe Dementia in Dec 2012, and by all indications from both the CAT Scan and when we first noticed some real issues with her cognitive abilities she was likely 4 to 5 years into it.
Do to certain circumstances my mother moved from Canada to USA to live with me, my husband and our three children as we believed that perhaps we could help her out...which of course as we quickly discovered we could not.
Unfortunately what was to be a short term situation has ended up being a long term situation, which had we known we never would have agreed too...but alas such is the way of things.
In my efforts to seek out help and understanding I have discovered that there is very little help for those of us that are in this situation, and in fact very little understanding about the difficulties we face as caregivers and how it effects us differently from most people going through the horrors of watching their parents go through this awful set of diseases.
So while I've read a number of accounts from people facing similar situations, I have to say that in some ways it is very isolating and when you have a parent like this you know that talking about it in general is very difficult because as children we were taught not to speak about such things.
I also notice that many people don't realize that their parent actually has a mental illness along side of the Alzheimer's so I think it makes it even more difficult to deal with as an individual and from an emotional point of view.
So I've been thinking that we need to find a way to help each other out, to help each other find answers, learn to cope with our parent/s in a way that works, but more importantly I think we need to find ways to heal ourselves and understand what we are going through from a different angle.
Also, I believe that through this experience that perhaps we can find some healing from our trauma's through the process.