My mother is 82. She refuses to see a doctor and has not been to one since early 1990's, I'm guessing. I know she has Alzheimer's or dementia. She "has" conversations with family members that never actually happened. Two days ago, she was convinced someone had come into her place to change furnace filters, when she was told it wasn't who she thought it was, she called him to thank him, she started freaking out. "So if it wasn't him, who was in my place and hugged me and told me they loved me?" In an attempt to calm her down I told her no one was there and it only made matters worse, as she became upset that we didn't believe her. Ugh. She currently lives alone, 2 blocks from my brother and a 10 minute drive from me. I know eventually she will have to have in-home care, move her in with one of us, or move to a nursing home. I wish I could get her to go to doctor for a diagnosis, but she flatly refuses. She has hung up on my brothers and I, or walked away and slammed her bedroom door and refused to come out whenever we bring it up. Should I try to force her to go? Should I just wait until she's so bad she won't fight any more because she won't know where we are taking her? I'm so sad this is happening to her. The saddest part is that she would be the one I would go to for advice on tough situations, but I can't do that now. Not for this obviously.