Mom was told by her doctor not to drive until she has an evaluation by the DMV. That is a relief but of course it means my parents will need more help. My siblings and I willl be sharing the burden as best we can. My time is limited and my parents live 45 minutes away so I can't just pop over to pick things up or give rides so I am trying to be strategic. Here is what I have done thus far. Ihelped Mom sign up for elder transportation services but she did not like the inconvenience of making arrangements plus she was driving at the time so she has never used it. I will need to work with her on that one. I also called around about grocery delivery and they require a credit or debit card. My folks are maxed out on credit cards and have no debit card but I am trying to help them get one. My parents have a neighbor who is out of work and my Mom was thinking of paying her to run errands on occasion. I grew up with this woman and she is very nice. I will see if we can get the ball rolling on that. Meanwhile I will be planning visits with chores in mind.
Tuesday we have a case worker coming to a family visit I am hoping they will be helpful with services for my folks. The hardest part will be convincing my parents to allow services. Right now they just want us to do it all and they seem incapable of planning beyond the moment so it will be up to us to make plans and manage incoming help.
I would love to hear how people with limited visit time, make the most with the time and resources they have. Thanks!!