This is a follow up to a previous question, I did break him of coming over 5 days a week by getting a job out of town. But on the 2 days I'm off he still expects the same treatment and I've unwillingly and inadvertently given it to him. He does not need help mentally or physically. He does not want to move in with us anymore, but we are planning to move to a city an hour away. Anytime I mention this, he says I need to wait a few years til he dies. His dad lived to be 81. I cannot live another decade in this town. The city offers more oppurtunities for my kids and ourselves wanting to start owning multiple income properties. Everything I say he shoots down. He says the kids don't need extra things to do, he had nothing in his day. He cries and says he'll be all alone if we move, but refuses to change ANYTHING about his life. He just wants things to stay as they are til he dies and when the water works come on I relent. He has helped me my whole life with money, generously given without expecting to be paid back and he will pick up kids for me once in a while. I love my dad, but I cannot live here another "few years" I just dont know what to do. He runs his own business, works 1 hour a day then complains he's bored but anything I suggest he's just like NOPE. I feel ungrateful for all he's done when I think of just putting my foot down because thats how he makes me feel.