Am I being selfish if I go on this trip?

GO GO GO! - you can stay home for a long time - being a 'waiter' is bad because a 'waiter' is waiting for someone to die - that can be years & lots of caregivers die before the person they are caring for

If by chance she passes while you are away that is too bad but you've been there for her ... fyi on every given day everyone has a 0.2739 % chance of dieing -

Unless dr says she will go within 72 hours then go - your r.s.v.p. should say you are planning on coming but there is a small chance you may have to back out at last minute & you'll call to tell them

I am sorry to hear about your Mom. This is a difficult time. I feel that you have already answered your question in your statement "I don't know if I could forgive myself..".
Your mom's need is more immediate. There will be another time for visiting with your son and his family. Be there for your Mom in her final journey from this Earth. You will never regret it. My good thoughts are with you for a peaceful passage for her and peace I'm your heart knowing that you made the right decision. No, you are not being selfish, just a bit confused in your priorities. I hope this had helped to enlighten you.

You should go on the trip! The mistake my husband and I made is that we DID NOT go on any special number anniversary trips. Our reasoning was "what if my mother gets ill?" She lived to be 94 and we missed out on a lot of trips. Do it!

GO. Please go.  Do not listen to some of these silly people 'your mom's need is more immediate' ... (In a pig's eye!   What Horse Pucky!).... My mother's nephew is 70 and married to a lovely woman- her mother has been lingering at death's door for untold years. The mother is 96, no signs of an end in sight. The couple's  children arranged a cruise for their mother and  father to go to Alaska  on their 50th wedding anniversary,  and his wife  said 'but...but...what if Mom passes on while I'm away?'.... (sigh) Her children said, ' we are here.  You will go on this trip.  The morgue will put her on ice until you get back and we will hold off on arrangements till then.  GO ON THAT CRUISE.' And so they did, and AFAIK (this was a year ago) and her mother is STILL alive!   (BTW The cruise was fantastic, a once in a life experience.  Life is for the living.)

I think you mom would want you to go and enjoy yourself. I have heard that sometimes people will wait until their loved ones are gone before they pass. And as others as pointed out they can rally and live for months or even years. I'm not sure of your faith but I totally believe that no one is ever alone when they pass, a loved one is always there to greet them. I hope you go and enjoy yourself. A 50th anniversary is a pretty huge milesone.

There's nothing selfish about this, it may be more selfish in fact to deprive the rest of your family of your presence at this event. I hope you attend and have a wonderful time.

GO