Usually the result makes me the villain, yet still the responsible party - no good deed goes unpunished. As I managed my mother's family since my twenties - I forewarned her I would be all burned out when she needed me. 20 years later it is just me and my mother - my own family adult and some resentment. My mother refuses assisted living and I can see her decline. She is blocking me from getting help, cleaning her living conditions, requires constant attention, has no regard that I am no longer a youth and deserve to build some type of life, is verbally abuses, and blames me for everything, and always seeks a stranger to fix her problems, which they tend to worsen. She always planned for my sister to share here golden years and never faced her favorite child was an addict who was never available and passed too young. My mother's antics has wreaked havoc on my own family in the past, but we restored and survived. She is very abusive and resentful of me and in my heart I've always tried to be the available daughter. She needs help. My every turn is suspect and ridiculed, but I really can see a difference in her mental state and ability to care for herself. What can I do?