Just changed her bedding because my elder pulled her catheter out with help from aunt and cousin. I have the stained bedsheets in the laundry right now.
But that's part of the reason why I called them. My elder is weak, bedridden, and two days ago she had wheezing and gurgling. (I thought it was Cheyne-Stokes, which might be behind the gurgling.) She isn't gurgling that much now, but she is able to talk.
And that was the big part of another problem - my elder wants me to help her get up so she can meet "those people." I knew she was having deathbed visions because she is talking to people already deceased that aren't there. I didn't notice part of her catheter disjointed (the cause of the wet bedding) because I was too torn about what to do about it.
I'm glad that my cousin and aunt offered to help change the bedding. But I really want to avoid such a fiasco from happening again. What should I do the next time my elder calls on me to help get her up and "look for the people," in particular her deathbed visions. How do I respond, besides checking the catheter and oxygen tubing?
I am really desperate!