My elderly mom has terminal LC. she has been failing the past few weeks and now the past few days, I can no longer transfer her from bed to potty chair. Mom refuses to use the bathroom in her pull ups and really can not aide me with the bedpan. She goes before my husband leaves for work about 6 am and holds herself till he gets home about 6-7 pm!!! She is miserable, needless to say !! I am so concerned about UTI's from this but just can not convince her it is OK . Any suggestions on how to handle this ? breaks my heart , she says she is not dead yet and does not want to be a nasty old lady..