My elderly daddy was in a Nursing home for over a year and his physical and emotional health was rapidly declining after being told that he could never return to his home after a fall and rendered him unable to walk or get around without assistance. After a bit of convincing from myself and my family he agreed to come live with me and my Husband. He has been with us a little over 4 years now and is doing well. I have a caregiver come in a couple of hours a day to get him out of bed, bathed and ready for the day. I prepare his meals and put him to bed in the evening. But, now i'm feeling trapped. I can't take a day off, My husband and I can't go anwhere that requires an overnight stay or that is too far away. My husband and I find ourselves very agitated and frustrated at the situation as well. We don't regret having him and feel guilty for feeling this way as he is so happy and doing so well but, we are losing us? Our lives revolve around him now. I often find myself getting very impatient with him, not wanting to spend time with him at all and resentful. This is not in my character at all. I have always been a daddys girl and he has always been my hero but that;s all different now. He's become very selfish and is an "all about me" person now (only with me), which he NEVER was. He doesn't seem to appreciate anything I do most of the time and rarely says please or thank you. I feel like a maid and servant to him at times. I have a hard time concentrating on my Full-Time Job a lot due to worrying about him. ie, his Health, Drs. Appts,, caregivers showing up, how am I going to pay for this or that and the list goes on. I can't imagine him not being with us as I truly love him and know that he's where he should be but, how can I get back to being me? I want to look at him that way I did without feeling the way I do. I want to like being around him and look forward to seeing him again. I don't wish any harm to him and would love for him to live forever but, I am tired and just need a break from it all. We financially can't afford to pay anything more than we do already so, here I am..Homebound and a beck and call girl and my frustration is growing larger and my patience growing thin. I love him so much but, sometimes I have a very hard time showing it as even the slightest things he does annoys me. What can I do to find some balance and peace for us all?