How do I balance taking care of my family (stepson living with us) and my father living alone with Alz? My father refuses to go to assisted living. I have tried to get the doctor to convince him since he won't listen to me, but he still insists he is doing fine. I live 40 miles away and it's taking its toll on me. I feel like all I do it cook and clean at home and cook and clean at Dad's. I hate the thought of moving in with him and sacrificing my own well being and not being here for my husband and step-son, but I don't know what to do. Dad is still driving and thinks he is fine, but he doesn't eat unless I bring him food. He can't manage the microwave so I feel I need to be there to fix meals. He doesn't want anyone to bring him meals or come in to help so I don't know what else I can do. Do I just wait until he gets lost driving somewhere or has a fall? I quit my job to better take care of him, but I feel I'm losing my husband because I'm so stressed out. I don't even see my grandchildren or other children anymore because I feel like I am taking care of too many people. I know many people have it worse than me and I feel so guilty for feeling this way, but I'm wondering if I need to detach from Dad and only go to his home every 3-4 days to let him see that he really needs to go to assisted living. Any suggestions on how to keep my sanity and still keep my marriage/family in tact are welcome. Thank you.