Thanksgiving is here and Christmas around the corner. Always stressful but more so as a caregiver this year...
Please share your tips that have kept you from going off the deep end last year and ways to have a positive experience for family including the loved one you care for...
The Memory Care Unit had already had their holiday meal when I arrived, but she couldn't recall what they ate .
She told me she was glad I was there, because she wanted to discuss our Thanksgiving Day plans. (She didn't realize it was Thanksgiving.) I told her that we could discuss it and maybe we could make a Christmas list. She said great.
Later, she said we could go to Sunnygirl's house or your house. (Both are me.) It's odd because we have a family friend who believes she has two daughters. Kelly I and the other Kelly.
It was still a good holiday. She was feeling well and we chatted. She had no distress over not leaving the Unit for Thanksgiving because she doesn't realize it's arrived yet.
For Christmas, the Memory Care facility is planning a Christmas Party, so that will be fun. They have games and involve all that can be involved. The one at Halloween went well. She enjoyed games, that I assisted her with for about 20 minutes, and then she was done and ready to go to her room. She gets uncomfortable around too many people and noise.
She is part of my life, lives with us and so she is included in all festivities, conversation and whatever she can manage that day.
Thanksgiving/Christmas month : I bake, cook and freeze whatever I can ahead then throw them in the oven over the course of the (holiday) day or for unexpected guests.
Tree trimming party: everyone brings their favorite from soup to nuts to feast on while they do the work for me.
Having mom around is a lot like having a baby.If she needs a bathroom break, quiet time or feeding I know my guests /family can do without me for a short while.
I stopped worrying and hope those who visit will learn that old age is not a disease to be ashamed of.
It feels like Christmas when you do things that remind her of the holiday.I do the best we can
The last 3 years we celebrate Christmas with my mom day after Christmas. Most family members get together to the NH. I reserve a room and we meet and have a party. It helps me know that I celebrated with my mom. Although I go every day up to Christmas eve and visit. I know I've done my best to make it feel she is important. It's not good enough for my mom. Cause she complains and carries on with a stone face and looks sad. This year my our grandson with his mom and dad will visit us and hopefully that will brightened her day. I bring appetizers and refreshments and we exchange gifts. I feel mom is at the Nh for her safety and never forgotten. I'm there everyday and she gets many more visitors than most residents there. I do my best and put effort to take care of her needs daily. Outings, dr visits, extra meals, laundry. I still feel guilty at times but I remind myself it's for her safety. Take care.
It went well, the meal was great, but oh am I tired.
Another thing about having the celebration days earlier, the grocery stores aren't overloaded with shoppers, thus lot of items in stock and no long lines.