On Thanksgiveing she fell hard cracked a rib, now she's in severe pain.
I had her evaluated today the Nurse said they no longer have the same criteria as 2 years ago. My Aunt has Dementia pretty bad she has scoliosis in her spine, is so pathetic the bones protrude about 2 inches, there is no collegin left between her skin and bone so just skin over bone. On her left side the rib bones are almost non existing because her whole torso is deformed now. The right side has a cracked rib she's just recovering from cellulitis in her legs both of them and she only weighs 94 lbs.
Her dementia is progressed immensely to where she's screaming of night terrors and cannot seperate dreams from reality. This happens frequently at night and in the afternoon. Also this may go on for 7 days my aunt will ask where her mother is, and who will care for her now mom is gone. She thinks she walked here at times and tries to leave the house. She's so frail that no longer can open doors about 2 months ago she could slowly dress herself but now she screams help help help if we are not immediately in her sight to dress her or just maybe because shes scared ... every once and awhile my aunt will be sherp as a tack then slips away again.
I'm very concerned about her comfort and I REALLY REALLY WANT TO GET HER ON HOSPICE ...but its looking like maybe she'll only get Palliative care because aside from all of this my aunt is in pretty darn good health her B/P is 110 over 60 her oxygen is between 93 and 99 although shes sooo cold its hard to get a reading. I guess I'm venting because I feel that my Aunts numbers look good on paper but her FRAIL LITTLE BODY IS JUST DISCENGREATING RIGHT BEFORE OUR EYES and it seems to be happening more & more RAPIDLY. She just screams in pain when I put her to bed and when she's getting out of bed. I can't believe that Hospice has Changed so much in 2 years. I'm praying that the Dr. helps my aunt to get the Hospice care she needs & deserves ..this poor little lady needs the extra attention and pain management.
I am praying for my aunt she's in pain ..and I feel she Needs Hospice. THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT !! I feel so much better after sharing with caregivers that are going through the same and more difficult situations than we are God Bless you all!!!
In your Aunts situation, I think Hospice is needed. Get her to a doctor to evaluate her. He can call in Hospice. Ask for a different one than evaluated, if possible. You also need her on meds for her night terrors. When you wake her up, make her open her eyes. I can go back into a dream if I don't open my eyes.
Or, call 911 and take her to the hospital. The doctors there can order hospice.
You are a lucky woman to have the grands and your DH to help out.
I’m so sorry your poor aunt is going through so much pain. It must be awful to witness.
I hope she is able to get extra help with her pain and her care and that your little spoiled mama will cut you some slack.
Did you clarify what you could expect if this was the only option available at this time?