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I have a feeling that your aunt is only mirroring the words your mother says to her. If she lives 9 hours away and hasn't seen her in years, then what your mother tells her is what your aunt knows.
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BarbBrooklyn - Yes, my Mother lives alone. She is a recluse. No friends. Rarely leaves the house. My Sister lives down the street and is her main caregiver.
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My Sister just called to tell me she was able to get a very hard-to-get appointment with a terrific Neurology group next Friday. Now how do I get her there? Also how do I prevent my Aunt from cancelling it!

I think if my Aunt weren't involved my Mother would have gone to see the Doctor without issue. In fact, she was all on-board until my Aunt got to her.
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Does mom live on her own?
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BarbBrooklyn- My Aunt hasn't seen my Mother in YEARS! She only calls. Never visits. She has like 6 little dogs and uses them as an excuse for never visiting. That is what is so frustrating.
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LRubery, make another appointment but don't tell Mom when it is. Make up some excuse, tell her you are taking her shopping so be ready to go.... then pop into the doctor's office... make it sound like you had forgotten until just then. Some times we need to use "therapeutic fibs" to get an elder to do something that is important.

Your Mom's sister is probably in a panic thinking if her sister has dementia, then that means maybe she will get it, too, which is not always the case. My Mom was like that about her sister who had died in her 50's from cancer, my Mom obsessed over that even in her 90's, never thinking that none of her other sisters came down with that type of cancer.
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LR, I'm not being facetious about this.

If your mom still has capacity, then she can refuse to go to any doc she chooses not to see.

You, as a family, can also refuse to provide whatever is keeping her "independent". If she's endangering herself or others, you can call APS and report her as a vulnerable adult.

There are many folks on this site who are "waiting for a crisis", so that they can get their parent the help they need.

But to get your aunt on board, she's probably going to have to see the situation up close and personal.
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Geez, I think I'd put mom on a plane to aunt's home.

Will aunt come for a visit?
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