I am at my wits end with my mom. I am working to find a good assisted living type setup for her when she gets out of rehab next week. She is so upset that I am not going to bring her home ... and to make matters worse, I am the adopted child -- the other two kids are disabled and cannot help out at all (except my sister ... mom brings out the beast in her!)
My mom is saying terrible things to me -- you don't love me like you would if I were your natural mother, you just want to get away from me, you are throwing me away. She throws up to me how she adopted me and took care of me when she was in her forties and fifties. She actually said, "This is a fine way to thank me and your father for adopting you."
She claims that what I am doing is an attempt to "move out" from home. I am 34 and never moved away from home. She is afraid that if we don't live together that I am going to become wicked and she would rather die than have that happen. She has no grounds for thinking this. I work full time as a college professor and being wild is the last thing on my mind. Goodness - I just want some peace and quiet!
She has always been my best friend, my most trusted counselor, my protector, and my mom. I am trying to do what is best for her -- and basing my actions on her safety and best interest. She has dementia, neuropathy, and CANNOT learn how to properly use the walker because she forgets between sessions of physical therapy.
She is losing her independence, and she has always had a fierce determination to overcome any obstacle. I respect her right to be upset. I sit there quietly while she says these things and reassure her that I love her and have her best interest in mind. Even though I know she is not in her right mind, when I get home at night it all starts to bother me. Emotionally I think I am about to break. I have to go with her to the doctor tomorrow. Any advice on how to avoid having a mental breakdown?