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WHEN I CORRECTED HER, THAT WAS THE LAST DAY SHE SPOKE. :(
So, do not correct her, it really doesn't matter at this point. My mom lost one more way to communicate. Not many other options left.. glazed stares, hoping to get a glimpse of a reaction.. not good.
There are 70 different types of dementia, so as you can imagine, they all behave differently. Don't concern yourself with where in the journey you and your wife are, because it doesn't really matter. The best thing to do is go with her lead, so if she thinks you're her brother, go with it. Don't argue with her about who you are, because she doesn't control what she understands. Her brain is a little broken.
My mom confuses me with her sister, and if I mention my dad, she thinks I'm talking about her dad. It's as though her 66 years of marriage completely disappeared, and it's absolutely heartbreaking. Still, she's there and she's interacting with me, so I just put the sadness aside and let her lead the conversation.
Check the Alzheimer's Association website for a lot of good information on how to deal with your loved one. www.Alz.org
If her brother had dark hair and you have dark hair that might be enough.
If you have a nose in the middle of your face and he did as well...that might make her think you look like her brother.
If her brother wore pants....you get the idea.
If she is in the mindset that you are her brother...play along as long as it is not harmful or does not bring back bad memories.
If it is bothersome to her, upsetting to her then try to redirect her focus at the moment.
If it bothers you and if it is something that you can not deal with I hate to tell you this may continue for a very long time and this is possibly one of the less bothersome aspects of dealing with dementia. You get used to it or decide that at some point you might have to either get help in that will be able to care for her or you begin looking for a Memory Care facility.
My Husband used to follow different people in the store thinking they were me. I used to say when he was following someone in their 20's with long hair that was me when we met, if he followed someone a bit older, heavier and shorter hair that was me in my 40's if he followed a gray haired old man that was me in my 60's! Sometimes ya just gotta laugh,a sense of humor can go a LONG way in dealing with dementia!