My grandparents started physically declining very quickly a few weeks ago. They live in their own apartment and have always been very independent. It started with a fall for my grandmother. She is in constant pain, will not listen or follow the direction of doctors, and now between the pain and extremely limited calorie intake, she just isn't thinking clearly. I think the stress of all of that affected my grandfather and now he is holding back important medical information about himself (which led to being rushed to a medical procedure) and he is falling as well. My mother and I have been with them nonstop for several days. Neither one can be left alone or even alone together.
Unfortunately, I also have several chronic conditions which the stress and physical needs are making worse and I'm at my breaking point. I know my mother is too. I know it is a process and not even a quick one to get them into a nursing home, but I don't think I'm going to even make it through a few more days like this before I am completely useless. I already feel horrible that I have limitations. It has been mentioned, but not discussed because my grandfather wants to continue staying in their apartment. They don't have the funds to have someone there caring for them and we don't either. What do you do when there isn't one specific crisis (like a fall), but you need help quickly? Any advice would be appreciated. I love them so much and this is so hard.