I am assisting a friend who is at wits-end with her 95 year old mother and looking for full-time in-home care provider.
My friend recently moved her mother into her own home. My friend works full-time and comes home every day to cook for her husband, son and mom, and manages all of the relationship and stress in the home. My friend's mom is developing dementia and needs to be watched throughout the day. The husband takes care of her during the day, and this causes additional stress in the home.
My friend can either:
a) keep mom in her family's home and go more crazy,
(b) move mom back to her own home an hour away with a full-time care provider, or
(c) arrange for her to move into a managed care facility which will break her heart and "kill mom's spirit".
My own grandmother is 108, lives in NJ, and about 5 years ago we began paying (thank God, from Gramma's retirement account) for a full-time live-in care provider. It seems that in the NJ market, the Russian and Filipino immigrant community are strong in this field of home care. We pay a Russian woman about $4500 per month plus grocery costs to live with Gramma 24/7, 7 days a week, and we take turns giving her a break when needed.
I am looking for someone in the Boston (metro-west area) area to move in full-time with my friend's mother. I would love to hear any feedback or suggestions.