Two months ago, we moved our 84 yr old sister into a reputable Asisted Living Facility. She is a widow with no children and she is intelligent but has dementia and paranoia, which are progressing. I lived with her for a year to help her after she hurt her back but I couldn’t stay forever. She thinks family is stealing her money, etc. so we were not confidant she could tolerate strangers in her home. After her second fall at home, we moved her into Assisted Living.
My sister is very unhappy at the Assisted Living and only wants to go home. It is a “jail” to her. So hard for her and us. Her mental decline is very obvious.
The AL facility just told us today that they need to move her to Memory Care or we’ll have to hire a 24 hour sitter for her. She is confused and wandering at night. They found her near the front door one night. They said she requires Memory Care for her safety or a 24 hr sitter.
I think she will hate Memory Care even more. The part of her that is still intelligent will know she is locked up and she will be embarrassed to be there. Her bedroom will also be a very small room and many of the residents appear non-communicative.
Hiring a 24 hr sitter at the AL facility wouldn’t work financially.
I’m distraught. Any experience or thoughts appreciated.