My sister has a myriad of issues. She is a recovered alcoholic with spending issues and 2 bankruptcies. She had a stroke 2 years ago and struggles with short term memory issues and aphasia. She was living with my mom and she and I were caring for her but after the stroke it became very difficult for her so I stepped in more. My mom passed in April just after the pandemic hit and we had to sell the house due to a reverse mortgage situation. My sister then stayed in the house until just before it sold, moved into public housing and then decided to give assisted living a try. The pandemic has forced them into lock down for 2 months solid and she has been miserable. Couple that with grief for my mom...She wants out but she is not truly happy living with anyone and wants to be on her own despite the act that she has only a small disability payment monthly and most likely could not work due to her stroke. I got her signed up for the Medicaid assisted living waiver and into a lovely facility because I thought it would give her the independence she wanted (not living with a sibling) but still someone to help with medications (she forgets to take them) and other things but now she tells me she does not belong there as she is too young and wants to leave. I would take her in but she generally becomes angry toward me when I don't let her do what she wants (spending money). I am concerned for her driving as she was getting lost prior to moving into the facility. And I am concerned that husband who is retired would have to be home with her all day while i am at work. I want her to stay in the facility as well because she has such bad spending habits that I fear that she would starve because she would not remember to save money for food. My problem is dealing with the my guilt over her situation. I am so sad for her; she loses my mom during a pandemic and then everything in her life changes. It was difficult to even be with her at first due to the pandemic and now I berate myself for not just tossing caution to the wind and just spending more time with her after my mom passed. We couldn't even have a funeral :( Now all her sadness and despair in the facility and I am a total wreck. Anxiety and guilt and sadness have overcome me. I can't seem to put this in a good place. I would appreciate any comments on my handling of this and if you think I am wrong to put her in Assisted Living. Thank you!