I have been the primary caretaker for my husband who has LBD with Parkinson's along with recent significant Capgras Syndrome. He is 18 years my senior. (59 and 77). Together for 30 years. I put him in A.L. for a week and he did horribly so I brought him home. He was not even able to do his ADLs while in the assisted living home. After being home for 1 day all that knowledge came back.
After two weeks at home he barely knows who I am. All friends and family tell me I MUST put him in Memory Care. This man is my soulmate, my life, and I love him with every fiber in my body. I don't think I can live with myself if I put him back in A.L. but I just cannot continue to care for him. I can't even make a decision, all I do is cry. I feel like I will be giving my disabled "child" over to people that don't know anything about him or his needs.
How do you live with making this decision???