...so I got to spend yet another day "off" tending to my father because Assisted Living is SO restricted on what they can and can't do which means it falls on me...
The culprits...constipation and subsequent anxiety due to constipation.
There are rules. I get that, but today I was left with the question... WTH am I paying $5K a month for? Their rule is to only give meds that are on the doctor's orders which means if Daddy feels "bad" I get multiple phone calls to give him OTC meds, This includes something as simple as cough syrup and nutritional supplements (such as FIBER and a weight gainer).
Today, after the fifth phone call and Daddy begging me to take him to the hospital, I decided to take him to urgent care instead. Of course, they did NOTHING!!! They looked at his current med regimen and suggested increased fluids and more fiber... NO KIDDING!!!!!
So once again, I have to be the "fix it" person which meand that my day off looks like this: I wasted an hour and a half at a pointless Urgent Care appointment followed by purchasing Ensure shakes and Benefiber single doses so that I can "sneak" Daddy's fiber into the shakes with hopes of getting things moving around again for him. Buying and making those took another hour. I then had to insert another suppository but it took 45 minutes of fighting to get Dad to agree to that. I then had to wait for Dad to "go" then check the output (I have no children and a weak stomach--NOT FUN) as well as clean Daddy up because he was sore after the whole ordeal!
I'm sorry, but shouldn't $5K monthly cover some of this? The point of me putting him in AL was to LESSEN my burden of care, Instead, I'm spending PRECIOUS time off doing things that they COULD and SHOULD be doing!!!
The easiest solution would seem to be getting Dad's doc to add OTC meds to the orders, but that's not easily done. The VA doctor won't change meds or sign a form without a full visit (hard on my schedule and appointments usually have a wait time of at least three weeks), and he seems to not care about what's easiest for the patient. He sent Dad home with an anti-nausea medicine last summer when I brought him in for constant vomiting. Thankfully, I had the foresight to take Dad to the emergency room where they operated immediately for an incarcerated hernia.
So... what can I do? I am NOT a health professional nor do I want to be one. If possible, I would like to think that the money I pay could include at least placing suppositories when needed, verifying Dad's OUTPUT since I can't be there to monitor it and giving him fiber or a laxative without all the red tape.
I deserve my days off, and I am NOT happy about having to spend so much time doing things I think the expensive AL should be doing. Any suggestions?