In February i placed my mom in a rehabilitation home for 60 days. In that time I spent $12,000 in just cleaning her home. Another 40,000 in improvements. I replaced the heater, air conditioner, windows, made a handicap bathroom for her, remodel both bathroom from the ground up as well as the kitchen. This just a partial list. I was told by her cardiologist she has year a beat and I want her to have safe comfortable place to live.
She suffers from deep depression..... The clean up was a typical horder complex. She has always been anti social......from the time I grew up she has only had one friend and that person recently past away. Twice widow and divorced once. Her childhood was a nightmare. She was adopted for all the wrong reasons and was told over and over she was farm help and a christian duty.
Every time I bring her home she refuses to leave the bed except to the restroom. This causes her copd to get worse and then back to the hospital with pneumonia. I finally found one home provider that would come on three times a week and bath her otherwise she would go weeks without a bath.
Biggest problems she becomes such a drama queen or treats the people helping so bad they have no wish to be there. Even the nursing home she went to last week has complained to me that my mom constantly buzzes the nurses. She make up stories of abuse accuses everyone around her of abuse. She even accused me her only family member that I deliberately moved her walker causing her to fall.I gave her a plate in her room. I started to place the plate on the walker bench seat when said place it on the table. In order to do that I moved the walker closer to the front of the bed leaned over and placed on the table. Twelve hours later I found her face down facing the bed and the walker pushed to the other end of the bed. She told everyone I moved the walker. Secondly she claims she was on the floor for 12 hours. But her diaper was dry. She does not always take her medications and lies about taking them. She get confused and I suspect a vision and hearing loss. My fears this will happen again she will fall.....stay on bed all day long. How do go about getting people to reali she needs more than a bath three times a week?