Mom is post stroke with vascular dementia and probably AD. she has trouble writing due to language and fine motor issues. sil brought her an adaptive pen, mom says oh I don't know how to use it. When sil asks " doesn't the therapist work with that " mom says she doesn't get therapy "anymore". I'm inclined just to chalk this up to mom's short term memory loss, since i talk to the therapists each week and they seem up on what's going on. How to verify she's getting therapy? How to approach sil who is frankly still in "fixit" mode?