Although never a hateful man, he was most decidedly a product of his generation. Adherence to gender roles: women tended the home and kids, were supposed to ALWAYS look their best, and men went to work. He had to have things "explained" to him over the years, and became somewhat less of an a**hole. Now in his dotage, antiquated mindsets are reverting. Please, help me with some gems of patience and coping.