My me durable statutory and medical power of attorney for her. We believe it this time it is best for her to live with my sister. She has Dementia and has been deemed unable to make her own decisions. I'm having difficulty determining the best course of action as far as providing the sister some money to care for mom and her expenses while being able to legally document expenditures. I don't want to give her free reign of a debit card as she is not familiar with the ins and outs of what is and is not appropriate to spend the money on to the extent that I am. For those of you in the situation, how do we do this? Do we give an allowance of sorts each month? Do we stop and order things? Pay for things in the middle of our day? Every time mom needs something? Should I have an attorney draw up a form allowing her to be paid a certain amount each month? What seems to work ethnically and legally best here?
Records of all of this remain online with the bank for years.
Unless your sister is pretty incapable overall, in which case she cannot do this, you should be fine.
See an elder law attorney with sis at your convenience. You are going to be traveling a bit to her and Mom now, so you can see an attorney in her area if you choose. You will pay for and get good advice. This is part of your fiduciary responsibilities to your mom, and to your sister while she is caretaker. You and sister need to REASSESS and RE-evaluate how long she will intend to do this as it goes on. What you feel about it now is subject to change, especially on her part..