As a family caregiver, I took care of my mother. I too have Alzheimer's. Now my estranged, greedy family are shaming me 💦 Any recourse?

Dina, I'm sorry, you have alzheimers yourself and are caring for a brother with dementia?

You reached out here for help. But your need isn't necessarily tax credits. You are both vulnerable elderly who need help at this point. Please contact APS for not only your brother, but for yourself.

If there is a Will, nothing the beneficiaries can do or the Executor. Its the Executors job to follow the wishes in the Will. He/she pays any bills outstanding from the estate. Sells the house/property if Will says thats what needs to be done. An accting needs to be done and everyone signs off that they agree to the accting. If you disagree, you contest the accting and so can they. If you are Executor, I would step down. Even a small estate can be overwhelming. You can hand it over to a Lawyer and he takes the % allowed by the state for those who are Executor.

Not sure if discrimination comes into this. If the Will is not followed you can contest it holding up closing of probate. Once probate is opened the Will is public. The Executor is required to contact beneficiaries that Probate is opened and include a copy of the Will.

If there is no Will, then u may be out of luck. An Administrator will be assigned by Probate to handle the estate. The Administrator will do everything the Executor is expected to do with one difference, the State determines who gets what. Children are first in line so if there are 5 children and the estate is worth 100,000 each gets 20,000.

Sorry you are being treated this way. No one wants to do the care but their hands are out when there is money involved.

So, you need to stick by your guns. Lets say u were left the home, if you refuse it (as my brother did) it has to be legally put back into the estate and I had to have a lawyer for this. So, can't be given to another beneficiary or sold out from under you.

I'm sorry. However, the will is what it is. If the will said the other sibs or parties would be cut in, then this is what it says. It is very difficult and costly to appeal this. Certainly more than it would be worth for an elder herself who's said she has dementia, herself.

I assume you are in the early stages yourself, having posted this. Your options are limited but not gone. I would suggest that whatever energy now be spent not on this, but on connecting with your county social workers, your area on aging, etc. regarding yourself, so that they will know you and you will therefore be prioritized among those who know you.

How is your family shaming you?

Did your mom die? Did she have a will?

What are you referring to when you say it's against the law to discriminate? What's the situation? Who is discriminating against you?

An apology for what?

Not following your question, can you clarify please.