Daughter came home with 2 babies. Because of childhood health problems her body and mind were strained during pregnancies. She is described as progressively disabled. In mind and body. She's had several operations and implants) Very good person but needs progressively more structure and support. Her father recently passed. We, as a family, stood before the judge as daughter gave her children into her sister's full custody. Her ex is out of the picture (extreme abuse). The state can't find him for child support though he is sole owner of a mechanic shop in business for several years with 1 employee. She so appreciatively receives disability payments and medical.
Her sister and I bought an old home iwith excellent schools. All 5 females live happily together. My son took time off from work and remodeled as was needed. He then bought a home 15 min. away and helps out.
She may never need all of the estate. She may, at some point, live with her brother or in a facility. She cannot handle her finances alone. She has children. Both siblings are committed to her and hers. She isn't dumb. Her mental and physical health deteriorates under stress.
I can trust her siblings if I split the estate between only them but is there another idea? Also, how do I preserve her dignity when it's so clear she doesn't get much of financial value? As for her girls?