I often read many posts that people are caregiving because their parents took care of them when they were children. Of course, let's face it -- unless you were very sick as a child there is a huge difference between diapering a two year old in your twenties and doing the same for an 80 year old in your 50's or 60's.
My husband helps his dad out of what seems to be a great deal of obligation. The two have very little in common and cannot usually be in a room together for very long.
So I got to wondering...are you friends with your parent (or the person you are caregiving)? Once you reached adulthood, did that magical spark happen when you went from being parent/child to two adults enjoying each other's company?
And do you like them? The reason I ask is my husband loves his father (because he did put a roof over his head and send him to college) but he doesn't like him. We have often commented on how you can love someone because they are family but if they were not, you really wouldn't choose them as a person to be around.