Hi so a few things have happened recently with my 91 year old lovely Mum. She has been getting confused with her medications and calls often to ask which ones she should take. We’ve sorted this out by arranging a pharmacist prepared pack to be delivered each week. She is also forgetting events that happened, like getting the results of her latest bone scan. Today, in hospital after a dizzy attack, she brushed her hair and then promptly pulled hair from the brush and just dropped the hair on the floor, she’s usually very fastidious about neatness. Her doctor wanted to do an aged care assessment to see if she should be still living alone. She got very angry, which for her is the cold shoulder and silent treatment. I was happy for this as she has been using her medi alert more often lately. After I went home, she told the nurses that she didn’t want that doctor anymore and requested another one, even though this doctor has been her cardiologist for many years and she always liked him before. We are scared that she will fall again when she is home alone and since she has severe osteoporosis the outcome would not be good. She is adamant that she will never go into care and tells everybody how wonderful her daughters are and that we will look after her. I have recently had brain surgery for an aneurysm and my sister is almost 70 and cares for her intellectually disabled son. We are both getting worn out and don’t know how much longer we can be running around after her, with all the appointments, shopping, bills and rushing over every time she uses the medi alert. We love her, she has been a wonderful, caring mother to all of us. I have another sister who is 71 and doesn’t drive, and two brothers who have their own health issues and really don’t do more than visit. I can see her demands increasing and am heart broken and at a loss as to the best way forward.