Are there younger (67) people in homes that my husband can relate to when the time comes?

Tara, if you recall, the patients in Awakenings didn't have dementia. They had a very complex condition that was helped by L-dopa.

Your husband has his own complex condition, vascular dementia, if I recall correctly . My mom has it, as do the loved ones of several folks on this forum. It seems to progress at its own pace, rapidly in some folks, slowly in others.

None of this is your fault. It's unfair that he has dementia. It's unfair that you have to watch his decline. But your job is to keep him, and you safe, and as well as possible. Take one day at a time. Take joy in the good days and try to learn something from the bad ones. And good luck at the attorney today!

Tara, if you recall, the patients in Awakenings didn't have dementia. They had a very complex condition that was helped by L-dopa.

Your husband has his own complex condition, vascular dementia, if I recall correctly . My mom has it, as do the loved ones of several folks on this forum. It seems to progress at its own pace, rapidly in some folks, slowly in others.

None of this is your fault. It's unfair that he has dementia. It's unfair that you have to watch his decline. But your job is to keep him, and you safe, and as well as possible. Take one day at a time. Take joy in the good days and try to learn something from the bad ones. And good luck at the attorney today!

Sorry for the double post. In my mom's nursing home, where there are folks with mild dementia and folks with some physical challenges, there are several folks in their 40s and 50s. They assist others with computer issues, help run activities and are quite physically active, either in chairs or walking about. Perhaps you need to take some tours to allay your fears and replace that movie image you have of a nursing home in the 1970s era in the Bronx.