I am the sole caretaker of my grandparents. Not parents! My uncle lives far away and hates his parents. He offers no encouragement or thanks for anything I do. He’s just waiting for his inheritance and criticizing how much money is draining away from it.
My mom lives nearby and she is not as physically healthy as she could be but she also resents her parents and just doesn’t want to deal with anything. She doesn’t mind visiting and claims she can’t take care of them because it “makes her too sad.” Also she reminds me that she cared for her grandparents so it’s MY turn. (We kids were all older and off doing our own thing already. Her care was visiting her grandparents and getting my dad to fix things around the house. Not even close to what I’ve done).
It’s been hard trying to be a good wife who’s not too tired at the end of the day. When I started this I had a newborn and three other young kids! It breaks my heart I’ve spent more time in doctor offices than with them. I’ve clean out their large house, stored crap for the uncaring uncle, helped sell their house and get them into long term care. I manage everything for them as well as my own household.
I’m starting to resent my mom too. These are HER parents and she is responsible for no one but herself! She is divorced and we are all long grown! My sibling and cousins live far away too so it's me or mom. How do I get my mom to do her duty so that when she needs me in a few years, I WANT to do it! LOL