Mom is 88. Dad is "peeing all over" & mom can't deal. She gets no break. They don't have much $. Reverse mtg on the house. 64 yr old drug addict daughter lives with them & is combative with mom everyday. Mom wants her to leave but she refuses. The money mom spends to support my sister could help pay for respite services. What to do? I'm on east coast. Trying to help. Mom & Dad use Kaiser. They have him on no dementia drugs. IDK why. Mom asked Kaiser for help & they told her they don't offer home care help. I tried to call LA Elder Services but they don't connect out-of-area calls. Where on earth do we start to help my mother?